How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back - 3 Behaviors To Avoid
Along with being painful, getting dumped can be pretty confusing as well. There are a lot of emotions involved and there is always something that you wish would have been done differently. Many of you reading this may be wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back. Maybe you are not ready for the relationship to end. A look at the female psyche can give us a good idea on where to start. Right now you are probably just thinking about how to get your girlfriend back. But, do you know why she left you to begin with?
Attraction works very differently for women than it does for a man. Men are very visual creatures. We are attracted first to physical beauty. This is the first thing that will draw a man to a woman. Women do not respond this way. Physical attraction is somewhat important to women as well, but there is something much more powerful at work when we are talking about female attraction. That powerful something is your behavior.
Your girlfriend was attracted to you in the beginning because of certain behaviors that you displayed that made you attractive to her. Later when the relationship began to sour, it was behavior again that made her lose interest in you. The main reason that men become unattractive to women is because of insecurity. There is nothing more unattractive to a woman than an insecure man. Let's take a look at 3 behaviors that show insecurity.
Jealousy is a very unattractive trait, and it certainly projects insecurity. Jealous behavior says to the world that you are threatened by other men because you don't view yourself as worthy enough to be with your girlfriend. When you act this way towards other guys it is very unattractive to your girlfriend and she will begin to interpret it as weakness on your part.
Controling behavior is a good companion for jealousy. Controlling who your girlfriend talks to and hangs out with is incredibly unattractive. This comes from a deep rooted feeling of not being worthy enough to be with her. A controlling man will keep his girl very close to him because he is afraid of losing her if he doesn't. Fear and insecurity are definitely not attractive behaviors that will attract a woman.
Putting her on a pedestal and not valuing yourself.
This has to do largely with self esteem. If you are always putting your girlfriend on a pedestal and putting greater value on her needs than on your own, you will soon find yourself by yourself. It is incredibly unattractive to a woman when you don't value yourself. Women want a man that will value himself as much as he will value the women he loves. This is a large reason why women are always attracted to jerks. I certainly don't advise you to be come a jerk, but you could think about the fact that having a solid value for yourself is attractive to your partner.
This is just a small part of what it takes to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back. If you can identify some of the key mistakes that you were making in your behavior, you can begin to change those things. Once you take action and change these behaviors, you will be amazed at the different response you can get. Your girlfriend will definitely take notice. She will start to become attracted to you again. She will begin to look at you as a symbol of strength with a high sense of value. Those are definitely qualities that you should seek to cultivate if you want to get your ex girlfriend back and have her stay for a long time.
by: Jim Jamerson